Marriage Counseling
“Renowned marriage researcher John M. Gottman claims that the average couple that enters marriage counseling has experienced marital difficulties for over six years. Don’t wait, seek help for your marriage now.”
“Nurture your fondness and admiration.”
Happy couples respect each other and have a generally positive view of each other. Gottman says that fondness and admiration are two of the most important elements in a satisfying and long-term relationship. If these elements are completely missing, the marriage can’t be saved.
“Turn toward each other instead of away.”
Romance isn’t a Caribbean cruise, an expensive meal, or a lavish gift. Rather, romance lives and thrives in every day, little things. According to Gottman, “[Real-life romance] is kept alive each time you let your spouse know he or she is valued during the grind of everyday life.”
“Enhance your love maps.”
“Any major change—from a job shift to a move to illness, or just the passage of time—can cause couples to lose their way without a detailed love map. The more you know and understand about each other, the easier it is to keep connected as life swirls around you.”
“Let your partner influence you.”
Allowing yourself to be affected by your partner, how essential do you believe it is? Is it true that being a strong spiritual leader to your family means you have all the answers and don't need your wife's help? Are you open to your husband's recommendations, or do you believe he is as incompetent as the media portrays him to be? Accepting influence from our spouse, according to Dr. Gottman, is a good idea.